They say that life without purpose is meaningless. Without clear plans, time is wasted, and so the days pass and then years. But recently, a movement that, on the contrary, are sure that to plan your life, harmful. Let us think about this in more detail.
Those who try not to look into the future usually are in the example workbook Stephen Shapiro, “Life without goals.” Their main argument: following the plan, a person can miss the fun, and the result did not bring the desired pleasure (that’s complained about it a third of the interviewed psychologist).
It is believed that the true joy brings all of that seems exciting, passionately desired and necessary. You don’t plan details a date with your loved one, if you got a burning desire to see him?
Often something that should bring success in the future, contrary to today’s desires. For example, to build muscle, you must regularly engage in the gym. And if you want at this time to take a walk? Walk! And go to the gym when you are sure that you will get pleasure from his visit.
Compass or map?
Plans Steven Shapiro compares a map drawn direct path is safe but rather boring. But the orientation only on interests - with a compass that allows you to walk as you want, from time to time remembering the right direction.
So, it’s time to throw the diaries? In this dispute there are no winners, as both life styles are merely suitable for some people. Most adherents of spontaneity have a right-brain type of thinking, that is able to do several things at once, perceive information holistically and do not like to divide it into main and secondary. But the left hemisphere is “free floating” brings only discomfort. For them it is only important sense of perspective, their self-esteem improves self-discipline, overcoming difficulties. If such a person during the holidays to focus on holiday “on a whim”, without clear plans, he is bored. So, define for yourself what is more comfortable for you to think about the present or about the future. In the first cases are “compass”, the second needed map.
1. Don’t be afraid to get lost.
In life there is no right and wrong decisions. To go somewhere to the side, to make the hook - nothing wrong with that. Even wrong, at first glance, the turn - this is your chance to get new experience.
2. Looking for a good opportunity.
Always be prepared for the emergence of new options that may arise where they are least expected and certainly not planned. Life without plans helps you not to miss the chance to achieve something.
3. Value is not what will happen, and what you already have.
Enjoy the moment. Keep your eye on the bird in the hand, not the pie in the sky. Love yourself here and now and not in fantasy, such what want to see sometime. Understand that the value of a man is not his achievements.
4. Search for adventure.
Life without purpose is no way to fall into idleness, and the chance not to miss a rich and varied experience. So don’t miss the opportunity to see and experience something new: city, Hobbies, posts, people. Every day gives you new opportunities to make little discoveries.
5. Do not think about the result.
The goal in the future causes emotional dependence, because you are constantly tuned to achieve the result. Lack of it can cause depression. But a lath it is not always that given to take, though he can do anything. Another thing to do what you can to quit as soon as won’t be. Aimless action is akin to a child’s behavior, which is constantly changing occupation, without thinking why he does it, and usually cheerful. You are just filled with energy for new cases.
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